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Accept others as they are; not as how you want them to be

Friday, March 18th, 2011 at 11:33 am

People come in all shapes, sizes and colours. Different people from different cultures react differently. This is very true. Be warned, that we cannot just judge people and put them into sub categories just because they do something that we do not like. We need to accept others for who they are and not always expect them to be what we want them to be as this is not possible.

Well, I always say that accepting is not a matter. Sooner or later, we automatically accept people but the point is in the way we accept them.

There are two kinds of acceptance:

  1. Accepting others as they are
  2. Accepting others as how we want them to be

When we accept others as they are we stop judging them and become casual for what they are. However, when we accept others as how we want them to be we put up with things we detest and want to reject outright. Here, instead of accepting people, we actually tolerate them.

Each of us has walked a different path, each of us has had different experiences throughout life and these experiences make us who we are. There are a lot of combinations of genetic and environmental factors that finally shape who an individual is and those elements are not in the same permutation for everybody. We all have gone through different situations and circumstances in our lives and the experience we have got from it has made us what we are today. If I would have faced your situations and circumstances, I would be sitting at your place and thinking the way you think and the same applies for any other person. When you meet, see or live with someone, it is important to understand that they are different than what you are and are bound to think in a different manner. Instead of judging them, you need to accept them as they are. We are no one to judge what is right and what’s not. What you feel is right maybe wrong for someone else and vice-versa. Instead of judging right, wrong, good or bad, it is better we accept people as they are and move on in life with an open mentality and better relationships.

Comments ( 7 Comments )

  1. Neetha Shetty says:

    Yes, I agree … after reading this article I started following this. As I am working as TL in one BPO company we have to tackle with many people and it is very hard to adjust the people and their mentality. But now I am happy to say that after reading this I started accepting the people how they are.

    Thank you so much

    Neetha :)

  2. Kannan says:

    Dear friend,i heard this same sentences in a yogaclass.It’s very beautiful knowledge according to relationship.Now i use that knowledge towards my relatives.I like to accept u what u are.U can do a lot difnt things.My heartly wishes.e-mail:Naturalfriend.urjayan8@gmail.com.

  3. aby says:

    you are righ. we only change CIRCUMSTANCES. AS LOA ATTRACTS WE SHOULD USE PRESENT SO THAT TROMO0RROW WILL BE AS WE LIKE. ABY

  4. s.l.jain says:

    100% right except few exceptions.be wise with open mindedness.

  5. venkatesh says:

    Dear Suhani,
    You are right. But one thing we have to note down is:
    ACCEPT YOURSELF AS YOU ARE.
    Normally many people hate themselves..its wrong we sould love ourself as we are..here is the very powerful mantra:
    I ACCEPT MYSELF.
    I FORGIVE MYSELF.
    I LOVE MYSELF.

    Keep smiling, Suhani

    Venkatesh
    Mangalore
    09343355903.

  6. suresh says:

    yes but some are mischivious and enemical and criminally destructive and they have to be stopped.A smile may stop ,but it could bring in troubles too.avoid evil and it will avoid thee is the right answer and attitude.as people are harmful too.

    Avoiding what is not healthy is indian way

  7. NAVEEN kUMAR says:

    Good principle.

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