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6 Questions You Need To Stop Asking Yourself

Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

If you keep asking yourself the wrong questions, you will never get an answer you like.

So take a deep breath and stop asking…

1.  “Why don’t they like me?”

The worst misery and loneliness is to feel unsure of yourself – like everyone else is ahead of you somehow.  When you’re feeling insecure like this, you don’t notice the hundreds of people around you who accept you just the way you are.  All you notice are the few who don’t.

Don’t let your insecurities bully you into a corner.  Don’t be your own victim.  Forget whether or not everyone else likes you, and focus on loving yourself more.  Accept, define and believe in the person you are.  For once you sincerely do, so will the rest of the people in your life who truly matter to you.

2.  “What will they think?”

Here’s a wake-up call for you:  When you’re worried about what others think of you, you’re really just worried about what you think of yourself.

At times you may flatter yourself indirectly by thinking that every little fault you see in yourself is also present in the minds of everyone around you, as if these people are constantly contemplating your personal strengths and weaknesses.  But the truth is, 99.9% of the time, they aren’t.

And regardless of whether others are judging you or not, you can’t control what they think.  The only thing you can control is yourself.  Some people will look down on you for your decisions in life no matter what they are.  You can’t do anything about that.  The only thing you can do is live in such a way that brings peace to your own heart and mind.

3.  “What’s missing?”

Sometimes your biggest source of unhappiness comes from the fact that you keep thinking about where else you could be or who else you would like to become, rather than appreciating where you are and who you are now, and how far you’ve come to make this moment true.

In other words, much of what you call “unhappiness” is really just dissatisfaction as a result of overlooking the beautiful aspects of your life that you take for granted every day.  So how about you flip this question around and ask yourself: “What do I have now that I will miss when it’s gone?”

4.  “What if I’m not good enough?”

A fear of being defeated is what warrants your defeat.  A fear of not being good enough is what guarantees that you never will be.

If you never pick up that keyboard, or pencil, or paintbrush, or whatever instrument you use to craft your work, because you’re afraid that someone else might do it better than you, your prediction will automatically come true.  Remember, defeat is not the worst of failures.  Not having tried at all is as bad as it gets.

And as far as failure itself is concerned, you’re not obligated not to fail.  You’re obligated to keep trying – to do the best you can do every day.  That’s all.  And you’re always good enough to do that.

5.  “How can I possibly move on?”

You CAN live without the people and situations of the past.  Period.

Life is change.  People and circumstances really do come and go every day.  Some stay in our lives longer than others, but everything eventually ends – it’s the cycle of life.  This is how it’s supposed to be.

If someone or something comes into your life and has a positive impact on you, but for some reason things change, don’t mourn for too long.  Be thankful that your paths crossed and that that you got the chance to experience something wonderful while it lasted.  Just because it ended, doesn’t make it any less amazing.

And remember, when one positive light in your life burns out, don’t use it as an excuse to shield yourself from all the other sources of light shining around you.  Continue to appreciate what you have now, and smile about the memories.

6.  “Why me?”

If you think that only a privileged few have the ability to live a great life, you are sabotaging yourself.  You are privileged – to be alive – to have this opportunity.

If every morning you wake up and say, “Yes, today is going to be a great day.”  And every afternoon you find a reason to say, “Yes, today is a great day.”  And every night you find a reason to say, “Yes, today was a great day.”  Then one day, many moons from now, you’ll look back, smile at the memories and say, “Yes, I lived a great life!

Be the one of the valiant few who looks at their dreams and says, “WHY NOT ME?” and then goes for it!

21 Things to Avoid!

Tuesday, December 4th, 2012

Here is a list of 21 things to avoid so you can focus on things that matter and make your life better.

21 Things to Avoid! - Suhani SHah

1. Over committing your time, energy, or brain power.

2. Saying yes when you want to say no.

3. Allowing your “have  to do” list overshadow your “want to do” list.

4. Letting external influences make your decisions for you.

5. Expecting others to make you feel happy, satisfied, or loved.

6. Allowing work to dominate your thoughts or conversation on days off.

7. Thinking that there’s not enough time to eat right, or get some exercise.

8. Spending your free time doing things you don’t want to do.

9. Comparing yourself to others.

10. Stressing over things you can’t control or change.

11. Obsessing over the personal decisions that others make.

12. Getting involved in things that are none of your business.

13. Focusing your conversations or thoughts on problems.

14. Projecting negative expectations.

15. Saying “I told you so” when your advice has been ignored.

16. Letting fads or trends dictate your preferences.

17. Blaming others for your current reality.

18. Buying things you don’t need just because they’re cool.

19. Inventing distractions to avoid responsibilities.

20. Working hard without knowing what you want to achieve or become.

21. Trying to hide from or make excuses for your real feelings.

Carpé Diem – Seize the Day

Wednesday, November 7th, 2012

The expression Carpé Diem is Latin for Seize the Day. It is such a beautiful thought that I have made it my motto. Each day of our life is an important one. If we are able to seize each day and make the most of it, we could get started on the path to happiness. Often we laze, loll and suspend things for another day. This causes us a lot of problems as we keep getting behind schedule. Living each moment in a manner that demands the utmost from it is a simple way of remaining cheerful. If we decide to do our bit each day – be it work, enjoyment, charity, worship – would it not be excellent?

Believe in Carpe Diem

Each sunrise ushers in a new day and each day is a gift to be cherished and lived. Each day is a fresh opportunity to begin life anew, to learn new skills, to cement and foster new relationships, to undo past mistakes and establish new bonds. Don’t let the day slip by without attaining at least one objective.

Live each day as if it’s your last and overall just do it! Like they say Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present.Life presents us with a lifetime of opportunities but the opportunity of a lifetime is got when right choices are followed. Be present to enjoy the moment. Each day is a fresh start with options just waiting to be explored, so what are you waiting for?

Life is Beautiful. Life is Once.

Give chance to every moment as every moment is giving you a chance.

Let your motto be ‘Seize the Day!’

Smile:)   Laugh:D   Breathe…   LIVE!

Gossip and Nit-Picking

Wednesday, November 7th, 2012

This is one habit that many enjoy. Gossip, nit-picking, criticizing and shredding someone’s reputation to pieces. At  a party, you are likely to find groups of people who are enjoying nothing than maligning others. Malicious gossip gives them immense pleasure. At work, home or elsewhere, such people revel in finding faults in everything and everyone. Who is perfect? No one! Therefore, we have no right to criticize anyone.

It is easier to grow close to someone when neither person spends time judging the other. Being judged all the time makes it impossible to share. Sometimes, it is difficult to visualize the good in a person or a situation because they seem thoroughly bad to us. But that just our perspective. There is always a good side to everything and everyone; it is for us to spot it.

Its easy to blame, criticism and find the bad and wrong in others. It helps us feel better as it shadows the odds in our lives. What’s difficult is to see the brighter side of everything and everyone and appreciate.

Blaming the government, an organisation or our company is of no use if we, as individuals, contribute nothing towards making a change in the system. We have the duty to change things for the better, instead of nit-picking or blaming the system. While we blame others, there will always be others doing the same about us.

I believe in the Law of Karma that says ‘what goes around comes around.’ Karma doesn’t only apply to physical actions we do but to every intentionally action done by us be it in thoughts, spoken words or deeds. Whatever negative vibrations we throw into the universe will eventually find their way to us. Be good. Be true. Spread Smiles and Find Peace.

6 Easy tips to be more Optimistic

Thursday, August 16th, 2012

To acquire a more positive attitude, all you really need is a more powerful vocabulary. Try these linguistic shifts.


Some people see the world through a filter of optimism: They always make lemonade from the lemons, no matter what happens. Others see the world through a filter of pessimism; they always find the cloud in the silver lining.

It’s a truism of life that the optimists are always more successful than the pessimists, but that raises a crucial questions: how can you change your attitude to be more optimistic? The answer? Change the words that you use every day to describe your experience.

Here are some quick language tricks that can change your attitude.

1. Stop using negative phrases … such as “I can’t,” “It’s impossible,” or “This won’t work.” Such statements program your mind to look for negative results.

2. When asked “How are you?” … respond with “Terrific!” or “Fabulous!” or “I’ve never felt better!” rather than a depressing “OK” or “Getting by.”

3. Stop complaining … about things over which you have no control—such as the economy, your company, or your customers.

4. Stop griping … about your personal problems and illnesses. What good does it do, other than to depress you and everyone else?

5. Substitute neutral words … for emotionally loaded ones. For example, rather than saying “I’m enraged!” say “I’m a bit annoyed”—or, better yet, “I’ve got a real challenge.”

6. Expunge profanity and obscenity … from your vocabulary. Such words are always signs of a lazy mind that can’t think of something really witty and nice to say.

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