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Never assume what you now hold to be true as really the truth

Wednesday, February 16th, 2011
Assumptions are like the colours of a chameleon.
They keep changing. They have a tendency to do so. Yet none of it can be marked as wrong or right. We can’t assume the assumption to be right or wrong. But we should work with the possibility that rigidity in thought might hinder the ‘actual’ perception. We tend to give a structure to understand people, concepts, situations with a fixed mind set. But this does not work in every case. It is up to us to be flexible in our thought process and start believing that we are not the only ones who are capable of thought.

Giving the other perspective a thought or at least a consideration might help us change our assumptions. For example if you keep thinking that all people who smoke are necessarily people who are bad people, we might miss out on all the knowledge they possess because we assume that ‘bad’ is the only quality that describes them and the aspect or value of  ’knowledge’ is not taken into consideration. But just because our thought process is tainted its not necessary

that, that is what actually ‘Is’.

We hold many beliefs. And some of us tend to assume that what we now hold to be true as really the truth. It is not uncommon to form an opinion on someone we know. That-

a person is unappreciative.

a person is self-centered.

a person is proud.

We are also quick to form an impression on the people we know little about. How? Is it through their appearance and the way they talk, walk, dress and behave at times? We may also dislike an activity or even a country even though we may not have tried the activity or stepped foot into that country. Why is this so? Perhaps because someone tells us so. Peer pressure or sometimes even the media plays a role in telling us that the country is far from our liking.

Assumptions are like the colours of a chameleon.
They keep changing. They have a tendency to do so. Yet none of it can be marked as wrong or right. We can’t assume the assumption to be right or wrong. But we should work with the possibility that rigidity in thought might hinder the ‘actual’ perception. We tend to give a structure to understand people, concepts, situations with a fixed mind set. But this does not work in every case. It is up to us to be flexible in our thought process and start believing that we are not the only ones who are capable of thought.

Giving the other perspective a thought or at least a consideration might help us change our assumptions. For example if you keep thinking that all people who smoke are necessarily people who are bad people, we might miss out on all the knowledge they possess because we assume that ‘bad’ is the only quality that describes them and the aspect or value of ‘knowledge’ is not taken into consideration. But just because our thought process is tainted its not necessary that, that is what actually ‘Is’.

Can you think of any negative or limiting beliefs you are currently holding? Whether of yourself, another person, an activity, a place, a type of food, a type of job etc. Be open to the possibility that what you are holding may not really be the truth even though you may have held them for ages. Think about it. Re-look at it. And hopefully something wonderful and refreshing awaits you.

Article by Bhakti Shah

Replace limiting words. Mind is Listening

Wednesday, January 19th, 2011

Do you know that words can hold you back if you are not careful?  How often do you draw boundaries when you use limiting words like:

I am not good-looking

I am not good enough

I cannot accomplish anything

I am not rich

I am struggling for a living

I am tired and sick

Nobody appreciates me

People take advantage of me

I always say the wrong things and mess up things

I am emotionally weak

Limiting words will manifest limiting conditions.  You will find yourself trapped in the very situation the way you have always worded.  Once you recognize the limiting effects of limiting words, you can choose to move beyond boundaries when you choose to use limitless words.  Yes, words can be incredibly powerful.

Discard limiting words.  Use limitless words like:

I am unique

I am attractive

I am more capable than I can ever imagine

I can accomplish anything that I set my mind on

I am creating financial independence

I appreciate and enjoy life

I am alive and energetic to achieve more

I am well liked by others

I am highly respected by others

I like to encourage and motivate others

Before you write or speak, think of limitless words.  Whenever you find a limiting word surfacing, quickly drop it and replace with a limitless word.  Make it a habit.  Practise and practise.  There will be times when limiting words might escape your guard and slip into your speech.  Don’t worry, it’s ok.  While making a conscious effort to stamp out limiting words, be easy on yourself.  It takes time and effort to get your words right.

Once you get into the flow, you will move beyond boundaries and be amazed by the possibilities greeting you ahead.

Keep a check on your words. Your mind is listening to you every moment.

Show your Appreciation, Spread the Positivity

Wednesday, January 19th, 2011

How do you feel when you are being appreciated?  When your kid tells you that you are his greatest inspiration.  When your spouse gives you a back massage.  When your boss praises you in front of your colleagues.  When you receive a thank-you note from a customer.  When a stranger holds the door for you.  When someone says thank you.

The feeling is wonderful, right?  You feel yourself being lifted and any worry or frustration you may have at the moment simply disappear.  The effect can be nourishing and/or healing.  Since being appreciated is such a wonderful gift and it really doesn’t cost much, why not make it a habit to show your appreciation and make someone’s day whenever you can?

You can show your appreciation in many ways.  It does not have to be elaborate.  It’s the thought that counts.  Here’s some suggestions:

1) Say thank you.  It is the easiest thing to do and it creates warm and good feelings.  Do it often.  When someone brings you something.  When someone helps you.  When someone makes your day.

2) Even a text message (SMS) does wonders. Appreciate people or just make them realize that they are remembered by sending a message on their cell phones. It only takes a few seconds but can make someone else’s entire day.

3) Send an e-mail or card.  There are many occasions to write.  For a good dining experience.  For an issue satisfactorily resolved.  For help received.  For great time spent together.

4) Give sincere compliments.  If you like your colleague’s new hair style, tell her so.  If you like a friend’s idea, say so.  If you see a beautiful piece of floral arrangement, compliment the person behind the great work.

5) Plant small surprises.  Give a small present or hand-made gift when it is not expected.  You do not have to wait till birthdays or some occasions to show your appreciation.

6) Recognize efforts even if the outcome is unknown.  When your child puts in effort to improve his grade.  When your staff stays behind to handle a last-minute order.  When your spouse is on his first attempt to cook a meal.  Appreciate their efforts.  Say something nice to motivate.

7) Show your appreciation in person.  Tell the person how much you appreciate him or her.  Let the person know that he or she matters a lot to you.

8 ) Show your appreciation through actions.  Give the person a warm bear hug.  Instead of ‘an apple a day keeps the doctor away’, try ‘a hug a day keeps the doctor away’.

9)  Do something impromptu.  Tell your wife not to cook this evening as you will bring the family out for dinner.  Give her a well deserved break.

10) Always focus on the good in people and tell them so.  Spread goodwill, sprinkle sunshine.

Show your appreciation.  Help make our living space more joyful and meaningful.

Do not forget to appreciate yourself as well ;-)

Avoid mood swings

Friday, November 26th, 2010

Believe it or not, your success in whatever you do is linked to your mood. You are the way you feel and you act in a similar manner. As a result of these feelings, you react badly to your clients, you nag at your spouse, you don’t go to work early, you are not listening to the lecturer in class. You do all these things because of the way you feel at that time- your mood.  Before, I paint ‘mood’ as a bad thing, allow me to explain that whether good or bad, it is entirely dependent on how you control it. You must make a deliberate attempt to control your mood.

Although there are many techniques to control mood swings but here is something that I feel is a necessity before you practice anything else.

Your mind is always in the process of receiving inputs from the external world through your five senses. Any of these external inputs can alter your train of thought, causing you to think of different objects or situations. For example, if you were driving your car then suddenly noticed a car accident, you might be reminded of a previous accident that you had, as well as any events associated with it. Or maybe another external input reminded you of an unsolved problem, or something else that has been bothering you. This would definitely cause your mood to change for the worse.

We blame our moods and our disposition on a variety of things.

  • “I didn’t have my morning coffee.”
  • “I didn’t get enough sleep last night.”
  • You had an argument with someone.
  • Someone cut you off on your way to work.
  • The weather is getting you down.
  • The dog ate your favourite shoes.
  • The line at the coffee shop was too long.
  • The waitress brought you the wrong item.

The list can actually go on and on. We blame everyone for our moods yet the truth is the only one who has control over your mood is YOU. It’s you who gives the power of your mind to external matters. Remember the power lies in you. You are in control; you have the power to change your world…You and only you.

When you train your mind to only think positive thoughts and stop paying attention to unnecessary and irrelevant matters, you will see a dramatic shift in your life. The small crises will no longer be crises at all; in fact they may become opportunities. Once the smaller problems no longer matter, the bigger challenges that we face in life seem much more manageable.

Imagine how powerful this new perspective will be. Do not allow small matters to control your mind; do not let it ruin your mood. Imagine the positive changes it will have on you!

It’s easy to be positive: Stop. Analyze. Replace.

Friday, November 26th, 2010

A positive thinker is a person who expects good things to happen. They anticipate happiness, joy, love, success, and pleasure from every action.

When looking to purchase a television a positive person says, “I am happy and grateful that I found a television that fits my budget.”
A negative person says or thinks, “I can’t afford the television that I really want.”

When a positive person becomes stuck in traffic, they think, “I’ll be late but now I can use this time to call my friend,” or “I’m sure this will clear up soon.”
A negative person thinks or says, “I don’t want to be late.” Or “Why does this always happen to me?”

The difference is subtle to our minds but it is powerful and the difference adds up over time. Consider what an effect of 10 years of negative thoughts can have on your body, your relationships, and even your financial status.

What would your life be like if, starting today, you never had another negative thought? What would be different? How would your relationships improve? How would your job change? What would happen if the people around you never had another negative thought? Positive speech and a positive attitude are contagious. Do you ever find yourself feeling poorly about yourself or about the world after speaking with a negative person? Do you ever find yourself smiling for no good reason after someone has showed you an unexpected kindness? Positive and negative emotions are powerful and they are infectious. Consider how much you could help your loved one’s lives improve simply by speaking positively yourself. Eliminating all negative thought from your consciousness is not easy and it will not happen overnight. However, as you become aware of your thoughts, you will begin to recognize them as either positive or negative. Most of us spend our days with thoughts running in and out of our brain and we don’t stop to analyze them. Now is the time to stop and begin analyzing your thoughts.

As you begin to feel negative thoughts and energy, change them to positive thoughts immediately. Words or thoughts like I can’t, I don’t, I won’t are all negative. Replace them with, I can, I do, I will. For example: Instead of thinking, “I don’t want to get stuck in traffic,” think “I do want to get where I’m going quickly and I will handle whatever comes my way with patience and intelligence.”

If you find negative thoughts are overwhelming you, evaluate why you’re having so many negative thoughts. Try not to judge yourself for having the negative thoughts, merely try to understand them. Once you understand why you’re feeling so negative, you can take steps to move towards a more positive outlook.