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Don’t like what you see? It’s time to Change your Glasses

Friday, February 12th, 2010

Try this. Look at an object. Briefly register the image. Now, grab a pair of glasses and look at the same object. Do you see the same image? Most probably, the object will appear sharper or less sharp than before. What if you were to view the object with your sunglasses on? You will now get to see the object in a different shade. This is pretty interesting. It means that you can experience different images even though the object remains the same.

Now zoom in to your life. Do you like what you are seeing? Are you always being asked to take on additional workload? Do you feel trapped and resigned yourself to fate? Does your mother nag all the time? Do you feel angry when the driver in the yellow car suddenly cuts into your lane? Does it upset you when it is your turn on the queue and you were told that the seats on the cheaper flight were taken up?

Talking about changing lenses, the beauty is, you are free to choose and it is only limited by your imagination. Choose a perspective that will make you feel good. Things that you cannot change things in your life, you need to accept them with positivity. If you are asked to take on additional workload, feel proud as this shows that you are more capable than the rest. If you ever feel trapped, do remember that you have a choice. You are the driver of your life and you can choose to change direction if you do not like the scene. If your mother nag, be grateful and feel happy. If she does not love and care for you, she would not have bothered. If someone cuts into your lane, be forgiving and compassionate. He may be deeply troubled and do thank your lucky stars that you are not in his boat. If you do not get the cheaper air ticket, feel lucky as the flight you will be on, will bring delightful and exciting experiences. Its your way to look at matter that creates your attitude. Whether positive or negative, the decision lies in your mind.

Of course there may be times that you do not like what you are seeing and have no wish to associate with it. In that case, just walk away from it, don’t look. Life is an art. You are the painter. Whether it is colourful, happy or gloomy, it is up to you.

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Change OR Accept

Sunday, January 17th, 2010

Whenever you are in conflict with others in a group or in your own mind or troubled by a difficult circumstance, and want relief, you have basically two choices: You can either work to change things for the better or you can work to accept things as they are. Both paths require effort on your part. Idle complaints, criticisms, or gossip will not really help things and will likely make things worse.
And it’s helpful to keep in mind that most things you probably can’t change. The only thing you really have power over is your own beliefs and behaviors. If you changed these, would it ease the conflict?
Practical Tip: When in conflict, draw a circle around yourself. Draw it so that inside the circle are the things you can change and outside the circle are the things you cannot:

1. Define the circle of things within your control.

2. Work to change things within the circle.

3. Let go of all that’s outside the circle.

In other words: define your part; take responsibility for improving your part; do not take on other parts.

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Special 7 – Simple tips to be Stress Free

Thursday, November 12th, 2009
  1. Give up caring about what others think. Do what’s right for you and feel good about it.
  2. Exercise! Stretch your body and release those endorphins! Living more in your body will deepen your day to day experience and exponentially increase the quality of your life and your sense of well being.
  3. Have fun! Don’t forget how wonderful it feels to laugh. Have fun with what ever you’re doing.
  4. Don’t take everything so personally. Listen to others objectively; it’s not always about you!
  5. Listen to different perspectives. This enlarges your perspective which leads to greater understanding and an enhanced sense of compassion.
  6. Delight yourself. Surround yourself with whatever it is that delights you. Surround yourself with beauty, with music, with motion, colors or sounds. Pamper your senses to create a stress-free environment.
  7. Business before play. Take care of business so you can relax and play with your friends and family. If you don’t take care of business, it’ll be hard to give yourself to life’s joy.

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Set Yourself Free

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

Set your mind free. Free from all the negativities, stress and impurities. For this, the person you have to forgive is yourself. You must absolutely forgive yourself for every silly, senseless, wicked, brainless, thoughtless, or cruel thing you have ever done or said. Stop carrying these past mistakes around with you. That was then and this is now.
Think of it this way: When you did those things in the past that you still feel badly about, you were not the person you are today. At that time, you were a different person, younger and less experienced. You were not your true self. You were an immature version of the person you have become with experience. Stop beating yourself up for something that occurred in the past that you cannot change.
In psychotherapy, when a person feels burdened with a deep sense of guilt or shame as the result of a childhood trauma, the cathartic moment comes when he or she suddenly realizes, “ It’s not my fault.” Sometimes you did things, or things were done to you were too young or inexperienced to know what was going on or to change the situation. It was not your fault. You did the best you could. Forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook.
Just say, “ I forgive myself for every mistake I ever made. I am a thoroughly good person and I am going to have a wonderful future.” Whenever you think of that event or situation, just repeat, “ I forgive myself completely.” And then get on with your life. Focus on the future rather than the past. Look at where you are going rather than where you have been.
Finally, if you did something that hurt someone, and you still feel badly about it, you can go to that person, or write, and apologize. Tell the person you are sorry for whatever his or her reaction, positive or negative, it doesn’t matter. The very act of repentance, of expressing regret, will set you free.

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3 tips to be Stress-Free

Wednesday, June 10th, 2009

If  you are having a hard time dealing with stress, I bet everything just seems to be going wrong and it stresses you out. Well, stress relief is really easy and can be fun.

I have always been suggesting my workshop participants to go for morning walks or joining the gym. Exercising relieves stress. It releases hormones called endorphins that make you happy. You are also able to get these hormones released by eating chocolate but it doesn’t even compare to exercising. It will make you feel better about yourself plus it will get you in shape! Exercising can be a lot of fun and it can be as simple as walking. You don’t have to do something complex to have a good time exercising.

The master trick is ‘deep breathing’. Deep breathing is another good way to relieve stress. When you take deep breaths you get more oxygen make you feel less tense making you feel relaxed. What you want to do is breath through your nose and exhale out your mouth. Put one had on your stomach and one had on your chest. When deep breathing is done properly your had on your stomach will move a lot and your hand on your chest will move very little.

Meditation is a great way to relieve stress. When you meditate you try to put yourself in deep relaxation, focusing only on what is going on right now not trying to over think or worry about other things. Sometimes it is thought that meditation is only with religious activities but it is not. It makes you aware of the things around you, making you more conscious. Meditation not only relieves stress but it has many other benefits like improving your mood.

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