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Where are you?

Sunday, August 7th, 2011

Do you read the papers while having breakfast? Do you drive but your mind is somewhere else? Do you talk on the phone while answering an email? Do you worry about work piling on your desk while on vacation? Are you worried that it will rain tomorrow and your plan will be ruined? Do you end the day still worrying about the mistake you made this morning? Do you find yourself still angry over an incident that happened last week?

Very often, we are here but our mind is somewhere else. Today morning while having my breakfast I realized that we eat but we don’t taste. We look but we don’t see. We hear but we don’t listen. We read but we don’t register. We sob over yesterday. We worry about tomorrow. We live in the past. We live in the future. But we don’t live in the moment.

Life is made up of precious moments. Live it well. Relish the taste of the food you eat. Chew slowly. Be thankful. Be awed by the magnificence around you. The blooming flowers. The feathery rain. The new born baby. Focus on whatever you are doing. Work while at work. Play while at play. Sleep while at sleep. Don’t mix them up. Be happy. Enjoy while on holiday. Learn the culture. Try the food. Have fun. Don’t worry. What’s done is done. What’s said is said. Don’t let it upset you. Don’t carry forward anything unpleasant. I remember my sister-in-law (Bhakti Shah) saying, “Each one has been blessed here with a huge bank balance of moments. Each moment holds a soul, a breath of its own and we have no right to strangle that breath.” So let us enjoy every moment. Smile readily. Laugh heartily. You only have this moment. Treasure it. Respect it. Live it.

Posted in Happiness, Life, Thoughts to Ponder | 7 Comments »

Life is perfect. Everything has its worth

Monday, April 18th, 2011

It takes a male and a female to create a life.

Complementary opposites in action create a miracle.

We breathe in, we breathe out.

Each is necessary to complete the cycle.

2 hydrogen atoms with one oxygen atom form 1 molecule of water.

Complementary opposites bond and give rise to wonder.

With day comes night.  With night comes day.

With work comes rest.  With rest comes work.

There is natural balance in everything.

With darkness, we know what is light.

With sorrow, we know what is joy.

With contrast, we know more.

When we give, we receive.

When we hurt someone, we hurt ourselves.

One action enables the other.

When we have, we feel not.  When we have not, we feel.

When our loved ones are around, we are lost  in our own world.

When our loved ones disappear, we are lost in their world.

Words printed in black are visible on a piece of white paper.

Words printed in white are invisible on a piece of white paper.

Contrast brings upon meaning.

We experience the ups and downs in life.

Good times won’t last.  Bad times will pass.

Where does the past end and where does the future begin?

There is no beginning.  There is no ending.  There is only now.

Is money good?  Is money evil?

Good or bad depends on the person handling it.

Our internal works are manifested on the outside.

Life is a mirror.  Look outside and we know what is going on inside.

With life comes death.  Death gives meaning to our being alive.

Keep moving as everything in your life has its worth.

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Replace limiting words. Mind is Listening

Wednesday, January 19th, 2011

Do you know that words can hold you back if you are not careful?  How often do you draw boundaries when you use limiting words like:

I am not good-looking

I am not good enough

I cannot accomplish anything

I am not rich

I am struggling for a living

I am tired and sick

Nobody appreciates me

People take advantage of me

I always say the wrong things and mess up things

I am emotionally weak

Limiting words will manifest limiting conditions.  You will find yourself trapped in the very situation the way you have always worded.  Once you recognize the limiting effects of limiting words, you can choose to move beyond boundaries when you choose to use limitless words.  Yes, words can be incredibly powerful.

Discard limiting words.  Use limitless words like:

I am unique

I am attractive

I am more capable than I can ever imagine

I can accomplish anything that I set my mind on

I am creating financial independence

I appreciate and enjoy life

I am alive and energetic to achieve more

I am well liked by others

I am highly respected by others

I like to encourage and motivate others

Before you write or speak, think of limitless words.  Whenever you find a limiting word surfacing, quickly drop it and replace with a limitless word.  Make it a habit.  Practise and practise.  There will be times when limiting words might escape your guard and slip into your speech.  Don’t worry, it’s ok.  While making a conscious effort to stamp out limiting words, be easy on yourself.  It takes time and effort to get your words right.

Once you get into the flow, you will move beyond boundaries and be amazed by the possibilities greeting you ahead.

Keep a check on your words. Your mind is listening to you every moment.

Posted in Attitude, Communication, Positive Thinking, Thoughts to Ponder | 6 Comments »

Avoid mood swings

Friday, November 26th, 2010

Believe it or not, your success in whatever you do is linked to your mood. You are the way you feel and you act in a similar manner. As a result of these feelings, you react badly to your clients, you nag at your spouse, you don’t go to work early, you are not listening to the lecturer in class. You do all these things because of the way you feel at that time- your mood.  Before, I paint ‘mood’ as a bad thing, allow me to explain that whether good or bad, it is entirely dependent on how you control it. You must make a deliberate attempt to control your mood.

Although there are many techniques to control mood swings but here is something that I feel is a necessity before you practice anything else.

Your mind is always in the process of receiving inputs from the external world through your five senses. Any of these external inputs can alter your train of thought, causing you to think of different objects or situations. For example, if you were driving your car then suddenly noticed a car accident, you might be reminded of a previous accident that you had, as well as any events associated with it. Or maybe another external input reminded you of an unsolved problem, or something else that has been bothering you. This would definitely cause your mood to change for the worse.

We blame our moods and our disposition on a variety of things.

  • “I didn’t have my morning coffee.”
  • “I didn’t get enough sleep last night.”
  • You had an argument with someone.
  • Someone cut you off on your way to work.
  • The weather is getting you down.
  • The dog ate your favourite shoes.
  • The line at the coffee shop was too long.
  • The waitress brought you the wrong item.

The list can actually go on and on. We blame everyone for our moods yet the truth is the only one who has control over your mood is YOU. It’s you who gives the power of your mind to external matters. Remember the power lies in you. You are in control; you have the power to change your world…You and only you.

When you train your mind to only think positive thoughts and stop paying attention to unnecessary and irrelevant matters, you will see a dramatic shift in your life. The small crises will no longer be crises at all; in fact they may become opportunities. Once the smaller problems no longer matter, the bigger challenges that we face in life seem much more manageable.

Imagine how powerful this new perspective will be. Do not allow small matters to control your mind; do not let it ruin your mood. Imagine the positive changes it will have on you!

Posted in Positive Thinking, Problem Solving, Stress, Thoughts to Ponder | 6 Comments »

Accept that you are imperfect and others are just as flawed as you are

Thursday, October 21st, 2010

Sometimes we can get terribly upset and hurt when others let us down especially so if they are our loved ones.  Our world shatters when their behavior runs counter to the way we expect them to be.  We harbor ill feelings.  We bear a grudge.  We cannot accept their behavior.  Why must they hurt us like that?  Before you wallow further in your sorrows, why not ask yourself, “Hey, am I perfect in the first place?”

We all know that we are imperfect.  That’s the common denominator of human beings.  We too have our fair share of flaws.  Some of us are grumpy.  Some may worry too much.   Some are sadists.  Some are revengeful.  Some are rebellious.  Some are full of themselves.  Some are rude and demanding.  Some are jealous.  Some like to gossip.  Some are distant and cold.   Some are wasteful.  Some are selfish.  Some are stingy.  Some are ungrateful.  Some are insensitive and the list goes on.  If we have flaws, then why do we expect others to be perfect?  Why do we feel agitated when others are not behaving in a certain manner?

Although we are not perfect, there’s no denying that we are all great in our own ways.  Focus on the greatness of others.  See the good in them.  Don’t let isolated unpleasant happenings affect the relationships.  Learn to accept that sometimes people will not behave in the way we expect them to be.  Just as sometimes we may hurt others unintentionally.  See the irritants as part of the big picture.

When we accept that no one is perfect, we will be less demanding on ourselves and others and can enjoy better and rewarding relationships.

Posted in Attitude, Peace, Problem Solving, Thoughts to Ponder | 4 Comments »

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